His pants came off and he ran down the hallway in his boxers, freaking out. We went out for supper and I ended up at his place.
When he came back (his wallet was in his pants) we talked for a while. I settled him down and told him I’m on meds and I’m undetectable. We chilled for a few hours—watching movies, talking, laughing and holding each other.
But if they don’t, I’m usually very upfront about it. The perfect date: He comes to pick me up with a bouquet of flowers and takes me somewhere nice for dinner.
We followed each other up and down the aisles, with strong eye contact the entire time, and then started a conversation in the checkout line. That must have been hard for him.” Many people are thankful because they don’t usually ask before getting into bed.
’ Alex Causton-Ronaldson, who is HIV-positive, reveals the realities he has faced when dating.
But the reality is that he shouldn’t have had to face any of them.
” (I absolutely despise that term.) When I told him my status, he went into a giant panic and had to check his mouth for open sores. As understanding and sweet and nice as someone can be, if they do not live with the disease, it’s difficult for them to understand when you need to cancel a date because your meds aren’t agreeing with you. LIKES: Pomeranians, tea parties, vintage dresses, bicycles, hard-to-watch documentaries DISLIKES: macho men, onions, mosquitoes, [Toronto Mayor] Rob Ford How do you meet dates?
He said: “Thanks, now I need to go to a clinic.” Baffling how a 35-year-old gay man still thinks HIV can be transmitted via kissing. Also, if I’m going to be in a long-term relationship, I’d rather not be the man who infects his partner if an accident happens with the condom. Maybe a fun movie or an evening battling on the PS3. Mostly I meet people just from hanging out and through friends.