Hi all, not sure how to get started so I'll spit it out I'm a 29 yr. old black female in a very controlling marriage and I'm not happy in the least. In the meantime, there are some amazing people on this site. It would be nice to make a connection with someone. Hi all, not sure how to get started so I'll spit it out I'm a 29 yr. old black female in a very controlling marriage and I'm not happy in the least. Depending on the context, men and women can experience social consequences if their act of infidelity becomes public.The form and extent of these consequences are often dependent on the gender of the unfaithful person.
Over a period of time you can change his ways if you change yours. Infidelity (synonyms include: cheating, adultery (when married), being unfaithful, or having an affair) is a violation of a couple's assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity.Other scholars define infidelity as a violation according to the subjective feeling that one's partner has violated a set of rules or relationship norms; this violation results in feelings of sexual jealousy and rivalry.According to The New York Times, the most consistent data on infidelity comes from the University of Chicago's General Social Survey (GSS).Interviews with people in non-monogamous relationships since 1972 by the GSS have shown that approximately 12% of men and 7% of women admit to having had an extramarital relationship.One measure of infidelity is covert illegitimacy, a situation which arises when someone who is presumed to be a child's father (or mother) is in fact not the biological parent.Frequencies as high as 30% are sometimes assumed in the media, but research Such studies show that covert illegitimacy is in fact less than 10% among the sampled African populations, less than 5% among the sampled Native American and Polynesian populations, less than 2% of the sampled Middle Eastern population, and generally 1–2% among European samples.Correspondingly, monogamy and commitment are more commonplace.On the other hand, when people live within environments that encompass little stress and threats to the viability of offspring, the need for serious and committed relations is lowered, and therefore promiscuity and infidelity are more common.In marital relationships, exclusivity expectations are commonly assumed, although they are not always met.When they are not met, research has found that psychological damage can occur, including feelings of rage and betrayal, lowering of sexual and personal confidence, and damage to self-image.